What I've been up too...

Skyttles · Dec 5, 2014

Well, as most of you may know, I am no longer an active member in the community but I just wanted you guys to know what has happened since I left and stuff so yeah =)

In the time I've been gone I've accomplished my main goal: relieve myself of social anxiety. It's gone, and now I can actually be the person I want to be without this. I am now an amateur professional call of duty player, winning tournaments with my teams and other things. Also, I've joined clubs in school, got my license, got my first personal car to work on (2008 Mazda RX-8 for you petrol heads like me), and started dating one of my best friends (I'll post pictures sometime ), but yeah; my life is going good so far, and I've had many things come in-favor of my future and this is still for the best.

I've also joined my schools football team and was told I may be in line for a scholarship

Anyways, I love you all and hope to be active again one day

Love,
Skyttles.

*p.s. CypriotMerks give me my well-known member *

Michal · Dec 5, 2014

grats #first

Pro gaming for the win, #CS:GO tho

Cos I still need to find out how to use a DualShock 4

Michal · Dec 5, 2014

Are you @Skyttles on twitter?

Skyttles · Dec 5, 2014

Michal said: ↑

Are you @Skyttles on twitter?
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@Skyttles_
I'm waiting for @TwitterSupport to get back to me with the handle @Skyttles :<

Michal · Dec 5, 2014

following

madnessgirl · Dec 5, 2014

Firstly, congrats dude c:
Second, I suffer really badly from Social Anxiety, have you got any tips on how to help reduce and stop it? It's getting worse and worse for me :c

Gemma · Dec 5, 2014

Got rid of social anxiety.
That'll be the day.
Congratz on real life.

Skyttles · Dec 5, 2014

Gemma said: ↑

Got rid of social anxiety.
That'll be the day.
Congratz on real life.
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I still talk to you via text so hush ;-;

SakuraWolf · Dec 5, 2014

Dude, Skyttews, good to hear everythings going good!
Seems like a lot has come together c:
Glad to hear it~

Beaver2206 · Dec 5, 2014

RX-8, nice. I drive an MX-5. They've stopped making them over here, 2010 is the last model in the UK I believe. Shame, nice car, if a little thirsty...

salamander9o · Dec 5, 2014

Good to know! Hope all continues to go well.

and my pants fell down

BobyFresh · Dec 5, 2014

Seems legit.

Anyways, hi.

Krissy · Dec 5, 2014

Well den...

SourceForums · Dec 5, 2014

Whoo~! Good luck!

Skyttles · Dec 5, 2014

Beaver2206 said: ↑

RX-8, nice. I drive an MX-5. They've stopped making them over here, 2010 is the last model in the UK I believe. Shame, nice car, if a little thirsty...
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OMGOMGOGMOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMG MX-5?!?!?!!?!?!? I LOVE THAT CAR OMG

SourceForums · Dec 5, 2014

SkyttlesOG said: ↑

OMGOMGOGMOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMGOMG MX-5?!?!?!!?!?!? I LOVE THAT CAR OMG
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^ Fangirling? X3

keeper_of_flame · Dec 6, 2014

Glad to hear things are going well.

amy / madnessgirl said: ↑

Second, I suffer really badly from Social Anxiety, have you got any tips on how to help reduce and stop it? It's getting worse and worse for me :c
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Well, I'm by no means cured, but if you'd like some tips, I have made a few break throughs with my anxiety.

This is going to be long and uhm, personal in parts. So... be warned. XD

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First of all, with any anxiety, it's good to figure out what the root of it is. For me, with my social anxiety (I have a lot of anxiety, but since we're talking about the social stuff, I'll stick to it. ), there's a few reasons. - I worry what people think about me, which is a pretty common fear, but when it's paired with my phobia of failure, it gets a lot worse. Yes, I worry about failing at social interactions. I worry quite a bit about people being completely disgusted, disturbed or filled with hate, then in a lesser amount offending people, and slightly less, I worry that they won't like me and least of all, but still slightly present, I worry about people laughing at me, mocking me or thinking I'm stupid.

Now without thinking about it at all and letting my fears run rampant, my life becomes completely unlivable. I know this, because I did it. A few years back, I actually developed slight agoraphobia (fear of leaving one's house) for fear of coming in contact with another person. I didn't grocery shop (I ordered pizzas online and paid online, leaving the time talking to the pizza guy down to a few seconds and always ordered way more food then I could eat so it would last days.), I didn't go to my classes and worst of all, I skipped out on my counseling sessions. On top of that, I didn't answer the phone or make phone calls at all, since even talking to people over the phone is a trigger for me. It was extremely unhealthy and had it lasted more then a few months, I'm not sure where I'd be right now. Anyway, it was certainly an extreme.

The point is that you have to think about it. You have to know exactly what it is that you're afraid of. How can you fix something if you don't know what it is? When you start to feel anxious, you have to stop and think about what's causing. What are you afraid of? What's triggering it. First step is knowing your anxiety.

The power of thought is extremely powerful. After knowing what it is that you're afraid of, you have to fight to change those beliefs. I decided a long time ago, not to care what strangers think of me. It's a long road and to be honest, it's still ongoing, but I'm getting better. I allow myself to be crazy in public, I speak my mind when I feel the need and most importantly I remind myself that there are 9 billion people on this planet. What are the chances I'm going to see that one who laughed at me again?

Also, you need to be comfortable with yourself. This is another thing I'm still working on it, but it's coming along. If you're not comfortable and happy with yourself, you won't be comfortable with other people around you. Take a good look at yourself and decide if you're okay. Learn to love yourself if you don't.

Finally, you have to face it. I found facing my fears easiest when a job was forcing me to do it. I first worked at Wendy's and was forced to talk to many strangers face to face and now I work at a call center and take about 50 calls a day. I've broke down and cried at both jobs, and also been faced with days I just couldn't go. But the repetition makes it easier and every day the anxiety is a little less.

That all being said, some days I feel like I'm doing so much better, and the next I'll relapse and hyperventilate because some nice little old lady said hello to me at Walmart. It's a process and you'll get there when you get there. I'm not sure how Skyttles overcame his so quickly, but for me, it's been 5 to 10 years of working on it and I'm not there yet. But I promise you, it does get easier.

Oh, and counselors or therapists. Talk to them if you can. They can be very helpful.

madnessgirl · Dec 6, 2014

keeper_of_flame said: ↑

Glad to hear things are going well.

Well, I'm by no means cured, but if you'd like some tips, I have made a few break throughs with my anxiety.

This is going to be long and uhm, personal in parts. So... be warned. XD

Spoiler
Toggle Spoiler

First of all, with any anxiety, it's good to figure out what the root of it is. For me, with my social anxiety (I have a lot of anxiety, but since we're talking about the social stuff, I'll stick to it. ), there's a few reasons. - I worry what people think about me, which is a pretty common fear, but when it's paired with my phobia of failure, it gets a lot worse. Yes, I worry about failing at social interactions. I worry quite a bit about people being completely disgusted, disturbed or filled with hate, then in a lesser amount offending people, and slightly less, I worry that they won't like me and least of all, but still slightly present, I worry about people laughing at me, mocking me or thinking I'm stupid.

Now without thinking about it at all and letting my fears run rampant, my life becomes completely unlivable. I know this, because I did it. A few years back, I actually developed slight agoraphobia (fear of leaving one's house) for fear of coming in contact with another person. I didn't grocery shop (I ordered pizzas online and paid online, leaving the time talking to the pizza guy down to a few seconds and always ordered way more food then I could eat so it would last days.), I didn't go to my classes and worst of all, I skipped out on my counseling sessions. On top of that, I didn't answer the phone or make phone calls at all, since even talking to people over the phone is a trigger for me. It was extremely unhealthy and had it lasted more then a few months, I'm not sure where I'd be right now. Anyway, it was certainly an extreme.

The point is that you have to think about it. You have to know exactly what it is that you're afraid of. How can you fix something if you don't know what it is? When you start to feel anxious, you have to stop and think about what's causing. What are you afraid of? What's triggering it. First step is knowing your anxiety.

The power of thought is extremely powerful. After knowing what it is that you're afraid of, you have to fight to change those beliefs. I decided a long time ago, not to care what strangers think of me. It's a long road and to be honest, it's still ongoing, but I'm getting better. I allow myself to be crazy in public, I speak my mind when I feel the need and most importantly I remind myself that there are 9 billion people on this planet. What are the chances I'm going to see that one who laughed at me again?

Also, you need to be comfortable with yourself. This is another thing I'm still working on it, but it's coming along. If you're not comfortable and happy with yourself, you won't be comfortable with other people around you. Take a good look at yourself and decide if you're okay. Learn to love yourself if you don't.

Finally, you have to face it. I found facing my fears easiest when a job was forcing me to do it. I first worked at Wendy's and was forced to talk to many strangers face to face and now I work at a call center and take about 50 calls a day. I've broke down and cried at both jobs, and also been faced with days I just couldn't go. But the repetition makes it easier and every day the anxiety is a little less.

That all being said, some days I feel like I'm doing so much better, and the next I'll relapse and hyperventilate because some nice little old lady said hello to me at Walmart. It's a process and you'll get there when you get there. I'm not sure how Skyttles overcame his so quickly, but for me, it's been 5 to 10 years of working on it and I'm not there yet. But I promise you, it does get easier.

Oh, and counselors or therapists. Talk to them if you can. They can be very helpful.

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Thank you so so much, I know it isn't easy but I hope I'll get there 3

ItzFrog · Dec 7, 2014

Gratz skittlez

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