Bump for Mai, please leave your constructive feedback below

 

I don’t think I supported you in my previous post on this application so here is my support. Since being promoted to discord mod, you have further proved that you are capable of handling different situations and that you are committed to the role. Good luck.

 

If you're similar to most people, you probably judge others by whatever mistakes you believe they have made. I was the same way for much of my life. But I eventually realized it is a form of loserthink. A smarter way of thinking is to judge people by how they respond to their mistakes. I'm sure that's the standard you would like to be applied to your own bad choices in life. We all make mistakes, and you could consider that a permanent feature of being human. But how we handle ourselves once the mistake happens is a better standard for judging each other.

One big problem with judging people by their mistakes is that what you are actually doing is judging people by the mistakes you are aware of. The people you have judged to be angels might simply be better, or luckier, at getting away with their transgressions against humanity. That would result in an inaccurate ranking of human beings on your judgment scale. There's no point in being a judgmental person if you can't accurately rank people.

That's just guessing.

Another problem with judging people by their mistakes is that we make mistakes too, and we always have "reasons" for ours. Sometimes we think you haven't seen the full picture of a situation. Sometimes we are tired, dumb, frightened, angry or otherwise off our games when we make decisions, and those moments do not represent the person we are most of the time. Sometimes we think our mistakes were not mistakes at all, even if it looks that way to others. Sometimes we are blamed for things we didn't do. Sometimes we have different priorities, so perhaps the thing you thought was a mistake was a thing I thought was in the interest of the greater good. And so on. The point is that civilization works best when the standard of acceptable behaviour that you want applied to you is the same one you apply to others. You could call that a subset of the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

We humans are judgmental people, and we can’t turn off that feature of our brains. Nor would I want to do so, since judging our environment is what keeps us alive. Consciousness is a continuous loop of looking for patterns and problems and judging them so we know what to do next. You can’t turn off your judging any more than a planet can turn off its own gravity. What you can do is make a decision to judge people’s lesser transgressions by how they respond to their mistakes, as opposed to judging the mistakes. I find that approach to be the most useful way of judging people. If you try it for a year, you’ll have a hard time going back to the old hypocritical way of judging people by their mistakes – a standard you would not like applied to you.

It is entirely sensible to assume that whatever patterns you've observed in people's past actions are more likely to continue than to suddenly stop. I don't propose ignoring clear patterns of behaviour.

What I do recommend is that we judge the character of others by how they respond to their mistakes, whenever that is practical. And the best response a person can make to a mistake follows this pattern:

1. Fully acknowledge the mistake and its impact.

2. Display genuine-looking remorse.

3. Explain what you plan to do to make amends.

4. Explain how you plan to avoid similar mistakes.

If you do those four things, I’m likely to come away from the experience thinking you are better than most people I’ve encountered despite your original mistake. That is a productive way of thinking for both the judger and the judgee, in the sense that society works better if we embrace that standard.

Judging people by their response to mistakes, as opposed to the mistakes alone, will allow you to feel better about your own mistakes, as long as your response follows the four steps. We humans like to have clear rules of behaviour, and the four steps are clear. Follow the steps and you can feel better about yourself and better about others. It will make the world a kinder and less confusing place.

 

Without a doubt, support.
You have experience with server and being in the staff team and have already shown yourself in the past as being competent enough to be able to handle the position.
Good luck, and I hope to see you back on the staff team very shortly! : )