I have been a part of the forums for a while now, and I have noticed that there are MANY people, who have no respect for them selves, and just can not like themselves. "Im so ugly everyone hates me, why would I try if there is nothing to try for..." I see this way too much and I HATE this. I have nothing against the people who are like this, but stop it. Its not good for you, or the people around you. You have to love your self in a healthy way. No one hates you, you are beautiful/handsome, you do fit in, you dont have to try so hard. I wont say any names here, and I hope that you wont either. You know how you are.
to be honest i have to agree with this. I hate it when people loath in self pity usually just to get some attention..
I would have to both agree and disagree. Some people say things like this because they want attention, but others say these things because, mentally, they believe that it is true. If I may, I have said these things a lot, and I believed myself as I was deep in depression at that moment. It is wrong to tell other people publicly as others get involved and things like this start. But it does make people feel better when they express their depression as it relieves some deep anguish that needs to be made public to be made scarce. This may seem like a lot of bull, but, from personal experience, this is true fact. Hope that this sorted out a lot of things for some people (severi167, PetriR)
For some people, expressing how they feel helps them to feel better. Just like if someone is angry, it feels better to realease that anger somewhere
People are doing this everyday. In real life, here, and on the Mineverse forums. It will always happen, but should really stop a little. I am tired of hearing about people complaining about every single thing on a freaking minecraft website. People need to love what they have because the person next to them probably doesn't have it.
Yeah this is spread throughout the Forums unfortunately, take the IRL Pics thread for one.. A little more self confidence and less self-pity upon their looks spreads joy among others so don't cower over how 'Bad' you 'apparently' look distinguish your beauty and share it with others.
Nicely said IN1NJAI People starve in Africa and people say there life sucks when they don't get a Xbox
Look, I agree with all of you, but you are only looking at this from one perspective. People may complain that they don't have an xbox, when African children is starving, but what about people who have hard times with their family or friends dying, for one example. We might have a better life over here, but that doesn't mean that we are protected from things that make us feel depressed, which is what you people are kind of saying. Don't only look at the comparison, or the people doing it for attention, but think of those real people who can't help it, then reply to this with your say
I am not saying that the fakers are doing the right thing, I fully disagree with what they do and why they do it. It is just disgraceful.
To me there is no big difference between these two. Others SAY that they are ugly and want attention that way, and others believe that they are ugly and want to feel better about themselves. Those could just choose to be thankful and care about themselves. You are allowed to be sad about something and there is a good way to tell others about your feeling. Tell your mom tell your friend. It doesnt matter who, but if you are like "Everyone hates me and Im ugly because nobody cares" Well how about you try telling someone about your feelings. Its not right to whine about being ugly to everyone. You can express your feelings in a good way, instead of saying bad things about yourself. Its not going to help anyone.
I can see your hearts int he right place but there are somethings to really understand. Since this thread is filling up with people saying things that are not exactly helpful to those with such issues. There is often a reason behind peoples low self esteem and low "self respect" we cannot just say to people to stop. You know that not everyone will fit in, saying that will make people feel worse when they feel on the outside. For a lot of people with self esteem issues, especially with problems that come from self esteem like depression, it can take months of counselling to even get to the point where someone can have the confidence and self respect that an "average" person does. People will post on the forums what they choose, its not like people are making threads that say "look at me im ugly and no one likes me and im unpopular". The public expression of such feelings can be a helpful release. Someone telling them that they are opposite can have a good effect on someone. Its not for attention, no matter what you may think Putting the idea in peoples head that expressing such feelings is in fact attention seeking is why many people have actually kept in a lot of the pain and feelings. This isnt healthy at all. Saying that other people are worst off may promote looking at ones own life and counting the blessings, but what it also does is say that you do not deserve to feel this way. Then when the feelings come around, that person feels guilty. Just because there are starving kids in africa, do we deny ourselves food? no we dont. Do we stop playing minecraft because there are kids forced to work on the streets in the slums? Just because a person chooses to be more open about their depression, in public, does not mean they are faking it, dont have depression or whatever. The internet is one of the gifts in life we have that can let us express ourselves. If thats the way people chose to express themselves, let them. Yes people say they are ugly... well look at what society is telling us is beautiful... then we look at ourselves. If someone says they are ugly you dont even have to respond. let it be. if you want to say something nice, do it. going to the doctor for most people here would require a parent to attend with them, and that is the most daunting feeling. To explain all your issues in front of people who live with, people who tried to raise you right and then you may feel guilty for turning out a certain way. So venting is therapy. Look, unless you can truly say that I have a great sense of self worth, i look in the mirror and am happy, im doing a great job at school, im beautiful or im not going to poison my body with drugs then you will not understand. There are always going to be people who will fake to get attention. But until you know they are faking it, you should treat it as you would any other person you see who is expressing themselves, trying to release the hurt caused by low self-esteem. How would I know all this? Because I was put down by my friends, looked down upon by my teachers, bullied everyday for years, never given the opportunities to shine because I wasnt white, never able to keep up with activities because my parents couldnt pay for it because we were poor, we always the one left out in group activities. Then came everyday emotional abuse from the family. Constant put downs, to the point where i never believed anything anyone said that was nice. I dont have a low self-esteem. I dont respect myself. I have depression and have struggled with it for years. So I know exactly how it feels, I know what is good for someone to hear. I know threads like this may help someone on an off day, but it will NEVER work on someone who have depression. Because depression is not just sad, its tiring, prolonged sadness spanning over a long period of time that cannot just be fixed in a day with a magic cure. Its a mental illness. Dont be insensitive, dont complain about the complaints that you think as nothing more than "self pity", dont tell people to stop feeling a certain way, dont judge people who vent what is in their minds and most importantly, dont EVER associate attention seeking with anything to do with a mental illness. Treat everyone with respect, no matter what they feel, no matter who they are and no matter what they believe. sorry for the long post but its starting to become really insensitive.
I fully agree with you Krissy. What you have said hits the nail on the head. Thank-you for clearing this up with everyone, and supporting my argument
I didnt want to sound to blunt. Because petriR has a point in a way, and hes trying to make people feel better about themselves, but i think people have to know what they have said could be a little harmful to certain people who are definitely not faking. I dont think anyone should feel like they are ugly or worthless, but sometimes its they way people do feel and i guess if its made public, its time to be respectful, and if you dont know what to say, or have nothing nice to say, dont say it at all :3
I was going to type something like this xD I was teased in primary school because my appearence (I have to admit I wasn't attractive at all) and I'm not going to go into too much detail but things they said still sticks to me these days, it's not something you can turn off, even now compliments feel like somebody is joking around and saying it for the laughs, I don't like compliments, I've said this before since they do the complete and utter opposite. Sorry about making it personal, I can't really explain it.
