Coming Out

So if you haven't already guessed by the title, yes this is a coming out thread, and yes, I am a lesbian.

I am shaking a bit while I write this because I don't really know what to say and I don't really know how people will react, I don't even really know where to start... and I know being only 12 (13 in 5 days) that some people will think I'm too young to know my sexuality, but I'm 100% sure I am gay.

I guess I should start with when I found out myself, it was some time back in early 2014 that I started to notice that I didn't really seem to like boys the way the other girls did, sure I had dated a few boys in the past, but even then, they had all asked me, and the whole time I never really liked them the way I felt I should. I had tried to convince myself that I wasn't gay, that it was probably just a phase or I was just being stupid. Then I first had a crush on a girl in my class, and it was slowly starting to sink in.

I had asked her out, not really wanting too many people to know I had I asked her out on Facebook (bad idea). She said no and the next day I came to school and was bombarded with insults and slurs, and being given the nick-name 'that gay b***h'. I lost the little friends I had from that little stunt, but after a while of being picked on, I decided that I wouldn't give them the satisfaction of getting under my skin and I ignored them. Some of the kids even told their parents, and I started getting insults from their mothers and fathers, being told not to talk to their child, and to not try and 'influence'.

The rest of the year I was picked on, and the only friend I had moved away in the third term, so I had no one. The year finally ended, and I moved to high school. Sadly it was my former primary school's 'sister' school, so a lot of people from there came with me. I did make some friends on the first day, which was good.

After two weeks, one of the girls in my group of friends came out as pansexual, and it was accepted by everyone there, even though not many of them knew what it was, so I decided to as well. Like her I was accepted in my group of friends, and I was so happy. Not just that they accepted me, but because I wasn't alone. After a week or two, I was passed a note in class, asking if I wanted to be the other girl’s girlfriend, and I said yes.

After a about a month or two I got up the courage to come out to my family, everyone was accepting, except for my mother. She yelled and screamed and called me names, she even called my uncle (who is gay) and blamed him, telling him it was his fault I was like this. It hurt not to be accepted by her, but I've learnt to deal with the looks and name calling, my nanny sticks up for me as well which makes me feel loved.

So, that's my story. I know some of you might be surprised, and I'd like to answer any questions you may have (depending on the question). I hope you guys can still feel the same way about me, now that you know this. I've wanted to write this for weeks, but I've never had the courage to do it until now.


So, that's about it.
Love you guys
-Pinky

 

Look, I support you and I know a lot of other people here will as well. I am a pansexual, so I know how it feels, except I haven't spoken out yet. If I ever told my parents they would disown me from the family as they are strongly discriminative in their views. If you ever need to talk, 1v1 or whatever, I'll be on ts or just msg me. I'll be more than happy to talk and to let us help each other

 

Oh honey you are really brave.
If I may share a bit of my experience with coming out.
When i was a kid I liked more stuffed animals than trucks and I would take stuffed toys everywhere which would make my mother mad. When I was 12 I started to read manga and watch anime because of the beautiful anime girls and I wished I could have been pretty like them. But I was a boy...
In high school I was told by my dad that I had to fit in and I traded in my love for anime for a stupid sports. But I kept quiet about secretly loving what they call "girl colours" and cute things. I think my parents knew when I started to deny their probing questions about why i didnt have a girlfriend. So I plucked up the courage to come out, but it seems like my parents knew. Then came the part that I had to face. I told my friends and one of them kicked me in the gut and they laughed and left me on the ground, and I had to go to counselling because I threatened to hurt myself because I was so upset after being physically abused. A group of girls however invited me to their group and for some reason they loved having me:; there and I could be myself and they loved that I loved cute things and watched all the animes they did.
It gets better. Life isn't all cuteness but I know that you will be ok
Stay Kawaii

 

We think no different of you, but it really takes courage for you to say this; so grats c:

 

This doesn't seem attention seeking at all. I don't really know what to say. :/
I'm glad you came out.
Uh, bad mum >.<

 

Pinky,
You're not the only girl out there who is like this...
There will be haters and supporters, just remember that you always will have someone from SkyBlock to talk to ^~^
As Madness said, this does take a lot of courage to say this to everyone... Sharing this to hundreds of people. And being yelled by someone won't change you, in seconds, minutes or hours, the yelling will be forgotten about.
Don't give up because of other people. Life isn't going to be driven by your parents or anyone else, will it?
You've got the wheel, you steer. You pick the roads you want to drive into, the buildings you want to experience, the people you want to talk to, anything.

"ƒℓу αωαу, ∂яινє αωαу"

 

That reminds me of titanium, even is it is saying fire away
"You shoot me down but I won't fall
I am titanium"

 

;-;

I don't know how to start this.

Reading this hit me in the feels. I feel really sorry that people didn't accept you for who you were and your likes, dislikes, and all that. It's really bad that people bullied you, picked on you non stop for something that didn't affect them. I know what it's like. And it sucks. I'm glad to hear that things have taken a turn for you, and that you're getting onto a good track again. I'm really sorry about what has happened to you.

I wish you luck, and I bet you'll do well

Don't let people stop you. Just keep being you

~Arch

 

And this is why I love sb people they are so accepting and truthful to a certain degree

 

You've had a lot of courage. which I don't think I'll ever have lol.
I'm happy for you c:

 

This.

We are internet dwellers. We are behjnd a screen. We can say whatever we want. Monkey farts. Bat is a hippo. Im a blue and black giraffe. Most people will just say what they think will get them the most agree's.


Or
To Zambi: im just playin, pls dun hurt me for this next part.
You're all just young children who dont know how wrong it is to be gay.

 

... I cbf even to try to explain myself, majority of people would know what I mean.

 

Takes a lot of courage to come out. I don't necessarily mean this thread. It's an extremely confusing situation and in a world where there's always pressure about what to do, who to be and how to be, it's not easy to step away from all of that, discover who you are and accept that person.

If you know who you are and you've accepted that person, you can and will overcome anything.

I'm glad you've found friends who accept you, those are the people you belong with. As for family, I've noticed, at least in my own family, if a lot of them accept you, the ones who don't are likely to start to relax about it, just due to the peer pressure. It's not guaranteed, but it does seem to happen. Worst case scenario, you grow closer to those who you can confide in and you drift away from those you can't.

 

You're no different if you like your own self. Pinky is still Pinky. And we should all be supportive of our member having the courage to come out and talk with us. Truly pinky, don't let them influence you! My best friend's sister is lesbian but I didn't know that until a week ago, she seemed the same the whole time, the lesson here is that knowing their sexuality shouldn't determine how you react on them

-Sarge

You go girl

 

I have no idea who you are so...no judgement on my part.

But still, 12 is a REALLY young age to be so sure you are homosexual (or pansexual).

 

I agree it doesn't REALY take much to come out over a PC screen to people you don't even Realy know/would even Realy care if you were Gay as all you are to them is a MC Player. You are also 12, I think you should at least become older and develop through your hormones before you try and tell people you are 'gay' but it's your decision so...

 

I MISS YOU SO MUCH

 

Hey Props for coming out! I am a bi-sexual male and have been for ages ( i am 24) your going to face endless walls, and countless barriers. i hope you find a way to always stay happy because this road is not a easy one.